Ways To Escape The Friend Zone

You have grown fond of a friend and you are not sure what to do about it. That spot is often called the friend zone, and plenty of people find themselves there. There is no perfect script, but these steps make it easier.

Look at the risks first

A friendship you value is on the line, so think about what you stand to lose before you say anything. Once you have weighed it, begin showing your interest in small ways instead of a sudden declaration.

Find out where the other person stands

Talk to the friends you both have in common and learn how they feel about you. This helps you judge whether the feeling might be shared, without putting either of you on the spot.

Get the timing right

Even a direct approach works better with care. Do not blurt everything out of the blue. Wait until the two of you are alone and can speak openly, with no distraction and nobody around to cause embarrassment.

Build up slowly

Start with something small and work your way up. A long friendship will not turn into something special overnight, so give the change time to happen.

Be upfront

Say plainly how you feel. Hints and games only confuse people. An honest sentence, said kindly, respects the other person.

Be ready for a no

When you invite your friend on a date or make your feelings known, the answer may be no. Prepare yourself for that. If the friendship does not survive the conversation, do not blame yourself. You acted honestly, and that counts for something.