Children Copy What You Do

Children need love. They need boundaries. And they need a person they can admire and learn from. A parent’s task is to lead by example, living out the kind of behaviour we hope our children will take on.

Few things a parent does matter more, or bring more reward, than being a positive role model. It often asks for a close and honest look at how we live ourselves. Here are some ways to set an example that helps children build character and self respect.

Own your mistakes

Let your child see you admit when you get things wrong. Nobody is perfect, and when you are at fault, say sorry to your child plainly. This teaches acceptance and shows what a real apology looks like. Children tend to absorb our nature, and this habit will serve them for life.

Keep a positive approach

A negative outlook rubs off on children just as easily as a positive one. Keep a hopeful, affirming attitude towards life and its situations. When tension rises, do not lose your composure, because your child is learning how to handle pressure by watching you. A positive approach helps a child grow into a better human being, so choose your words and actions with care.

Teach a questioning mind

Children trust easily and look eagerly around them for people to copy. Help them understand that not every so called role model deserves that trust. Show them what healthy doubt looks like, and encourage them to listen to their own instincts.

Look after yourself

Being at your best begins with caring for yourself: enough sleep, time for exercise, and healthy ways to deal with difficult emotions without lashing out. Wearing yourself down by always putting everyone else first is not a wise move either. That is not the future you want for your child, so do not show it to them as the normal way to live.