Name The Feeling, Then Give It A Number
Difficulty with a feeling often begins earlier than we think, at the point where it was given the wrong name. Two small steps, and they are smaller than they sound....
Six Ways People Decide, And Yours Is One Of Them
Are you the sort who spends the sunny day, or the sort who puts something by for the wet one? Before improving how you decide, it helps to know which of six patterns you fall into without thinking....
Ambition Beats Talent More Often Than It Should
The old line about quitters and winners is a slogan. Underneath it sits a real claim about what carries a person through the long uninteresting middle of anything worth doing....
How To Tell Thinking From Overthinking
Reflection and rumination feel identical from the inside. One of them finishes with something you are going to do, and that single difference is the whole test....
Embarrassment Is A Signal, Not A Verdict
The feeling arrives the instant something private becomes public. What you do in the ten minutes afterwards decides whether it stays a story or hardens into a rule about yourself....
Passive Aggression Is What Powerlessness Sounds Like
The sulk, the backhanded compliment and the promise quietly broken all come from the same place, and it is not strength....
Banish Negative Thoughts
Negativity can turn the happiest party into a miserable mess. Five ways to tackle negative thinking head on, and one list worth writing....
Finding Comfort In Uncertainty
Why limited experience makes an unknown future feel dangerous, and the five qualities that let you walk into it anyway....
Get Rid Of Unwanted Stuff In Life
Open the bags you have been carrying. Most of what is in them stopped being needed a long time ago....
Fear Of Competition Should Not Stop You
Four fights at once, and the discovery that none of them were happening. What the audience actually wants from you....